The following tips are the saboteurs, which tend to constitute Stumbling blocks, to self realisation.
Any one that is afraid to make mistake cannot identify with success. A person who is afraid to take risks, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing. Risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
Feeling of inadequacy and low self esteem.
Inaction; a state of sit down and do nothing hoping that things will fizzle away. Twill do it tomorrow is usually the answer. A life embroiled in constant indecision due to fear of unknown.
Staying in one place for too long. If it is not moving, it is probably not working and a clear sign for an unachievable goal.
• Lack of Faith
Not believing that your goals are attainable. Statements like, “I am never lucky, a bridge only breaks only when I come on it, or Antelopes only climb frees when I join the hunting”, are common examples. The following is a true story: An event occurred recently at the law school, Lagos. Hostel accommodation was acute and purely on luck and it was decided by lucky dip. Barrister C believed his luck and he always does, while his friend told him that he was never lucky saying, “when it comes to things like this, forget it. I better look for a private accommodation elsewhere”, he said. As they cued up, his fiend was far behind. On his turn Mr C picked yes from the bag while his friend came ten minutes later to pick. “Aha! It is a NO” he shouted. “Go thy faith has set thee free” the bible said.
• Distraction There are three categories of people to watch:
(1) High energy low attitude – The are cynics. Tell them to build a bridge across the river Niger, and all that you get are countless reasons what it cannot be done. They are the detractors and they discourage every good idea. They are reactive rather than proactive. They blame, complain, accuse, behave like victims, pick on other people’s weakness. Avoid them in your team
(2) Low energy high attitude. They come with good attitude, promising, but lack the energy to deliver their promises. They are neither reactive nor proactive. They are time wasters.
(3) High energy high attitude. These class of people are the achievers and sustainers. They are positive people and they make things happens and belong to the winning team. They are proactive.