We now know the typical sequence of anger starts with a ‘trigger’ usually a situation or a statement made by another person. Then comes a series of thoughts (perhaps, “what did I ever do to him?” or “why is he doing this to me?”) followed by a belief about those thoughts (“This is so unfair”) and finally the feeling of hurt and betrayal that accompanies those beliefs.
After all the thinking or ‘self-talk’ as therapists call it- comes the behaviour, either over actions like shouting, blowing up, hitting or breaking objects, or inward actions like sulking and brooding.
Workplace studies have shown that in many cases anger is in fact a secondary emotion. It is triggered by some other unpleasant feeling which comes first, but is hard to identify because the anger arises so quickly.
Consultants have found that the most common of these triggers are hurt, fear, powerlessness, a sense of betrayal, jealousy and frustration.
If you’re considering putting an exercise program together, it’s perfectly normal to have a lot of questions swimming around in your head. What’s the best activity to participate in? How do I get the most out of exercising? How long should exercise?
Often, the hardest part of getting into shape is taking the first step. Here are some simple steps to help you begin your Journey.
To make physical improvements, you need to work your body harder than usual. This is referred to as the overload principle. As your body becomes more conditioned, you need to increase the frequency, intensity, or time of your workouts in order to continue improving your fitness level.
Frequency: How often you exercise. For beginners, consider starting with 2-3 sessions per week.
Intensity: How hard you exercise. For example, the pace you walk or run, the amount of weight you lift, or your heart rate count.
Time: How long you perform an activity. ‘Time” can also refer to the number of sets or repetitions you perform in weight training.
Failure and success are two sides of the coin – the will to try
If at first you don’t succeed try, try again. If you are a true entrepreneur you should not know the meaning of the word “Failure”. Real entrepreneurs look at failure as just another obstacle in their path to success. In fact, many people believe that you must fail’ before you can truly achieve monumental success.
A great example is Thomas Edison the great inventor of electric bulb. Thomas tried and failed more than one thousand times before his invention. Henry Ford encountered several failures as a great automobile genius of our time. Albert Einstein failed over one million times in his laboratory experiments.
Are you dehydrated? So how much is enough? About six to eight glasses of water a day, according to the the British Dietetic Association and more in hot weather or after exercise. Less than that and you can become dehydrated, a condition that can lead to dizziness, fatigue, headaches and constipation. Dehydration can also affect the ability to concentrate: remember the brain is about 78% water, after all.
People who have adequate intake of water say they feel fresher and have fewer headaches.
The symptoms of dehydration can be hard to spot, but the most common signs include:
No matter what business you’re in. keeping things in order is key to your professional – and personal – success.
Time is money. You have probably heard this saying thousands of times. Yet, like most of us, you are most likely still wasting a lot of valuable time because you are unorganized. To be successful in today’s business climate you must be as organized as possible. As more and more companies cut workers, there are less and less secretaries, personal assistants and other administrative workers who usually are responsible for keeping you and your company organized. Now, it is up to you to get and stay organized in order to increase your productivity and efficiency.
GOODLIFE Tips to helping you organize your business
• Determine your goals before you start anything, determine its goal. If you don’t know where you’re going, how will you ever know when you get there? Set mini- goals and reward yourself for successes.
Don’t rely on your memory alone: You run the risk of letting tasks fall through the cracks. The best way to never forget an appointment, or a deadline is to write everything down.
• Consolidate similar activities: Instead of starting and stopping at different levels of activity, you’ll save time by making all of your outgoing telephone calls together, taking care of all your errands at once, etc.
• Use one calendar: The biggest mistake people make when using planning calendars is to keep more than one calendar/dairy. Keep personal, professional and family items on one calendar. It will help to eliminate scheduling conflicts. Remember the man who wears two watches, never knows the correct time.’
• Set time limits: Say ‘You’ve got only 10 minutes to talk.” Outline your calls, Say, ‘I’d like to discuss these 2 possible solutions to problem A…’
• Make time for yourself: Make at least one screened appointment with yourself each day. Screened time is quiet, uninterrupted time allowing you to concentrate on a project or catch up on your reading.
Make the most of idle time: Catch up on your reading while you wait for appointments. Audio cassettes of an educational or motivational nature are a great way to make use of you time while driving to work.
Determine your best time for tasks: Use your most productive time to do your most productive work. Alert in the morning? Afternoon? Tackle your most difficult, important work during the time of day when you’re at your best and you’re most likely to complete it.
• Keep receipts together: Keep an envelope in your purse or wallet to hold receipts that you may need for expense records or tax purposes. When you get back to the office, put the receipts in predesignated envelopes (business meals, fuel, rental expenses and so on), then keep all the envelopes in a larger expanding file or box.
Getting organised is more than just being neat and tidy. If you follow the tips and techniques provided your productivity, efficiency and profits will go up. More importantly your quality of life will improve as well.
Consider the experiences you have over the past year. A lot of people found themselves experiencing high levels of stress due to the challenges of the past year due to the pandemic. There are also other life events that can also cause stress. These life events could have been a child leaving home, transferring to a new area, trouble in a relationship, or a change at work or business or redundancy. The greater the number of life events, the greater the potential that you may experience stress. The frequency of these events, however, may not in themselves produce stress. How you think about the events and what you do as a result of that thought is more important. For example, one can take the view that life would be soon be better as the pandemic gets under control and we all continue to live our lives till old age. A person can take the view that a redundancy or a transfer from one’s state of origin may bring about an abnormal fear of failure (distress), but for someone else it is viewed as an opportunity to achieve something new (eustress). The thought patterns in our heads have a great deal to do with the kind and level of stress we will experience. So try and view things in more positive way, it does help.