“I Keep Doubting Myself After Every Decision”
Dear Franca,
Every time I make a decision, I second-guess it. Even after choosing, I keep wondering if I made the wrong move. It leaves me anxious and exhausted.
Franca Says:
First — self-doubt after decisions is often less about bad judgment and more about fear of uncertainty.
You may not distrust your choices. You may distrust not knowing outcomes.
That is different.
No decision comes with complete guarantees.
At some point living requires choosing without total certainty.
And that is normal.
Sometimes overthinking after a decision is an attempt to gain control after the fact.
But revisiting a decision endlessly rarely creates clarity. It often creates paralysis.
Instead ask: Did I make this thoughtfully? Did I act with the information I had? Did this align with my values?
If yes, practice standing by the decision.
Not because it is perfect. But because constantly doubting yourself erodes confidence.
Trust grows by making decisions — and letting yourself live inside them.
And remember: Even imperfect decisions often teach more than endless hesitation.
You do not need flawless judgment. You need growing self-trust.
And that can be built.
— Franca