Q: “My friend only contacts me when she needs help or advice, but she is rarely there for me when I need support. Should I keep the friendship or distance myself?”
Franca’s Answer:
This is a situation many people experience at some point in their lives. Friendships should ideally feel balanced, where both people support each other emotionally and practically. When one person consistently gives while the other mainly receives, the relationship can start to feel draining.
The first thing to consider is whether your friend is aware of how this pattern affects you. Sometimes people behave this way unintentionally. They may be used to coming to you for support because you are dependable and kind.
Before deciding to distance yourself, it may be helpful to have an honest conversation. Let your friend know that while you care about them, you sometimes feel that the friendship is one-sided. Explain that you also need support when you are going through challenges.
A healthy friend will listen and try to improve the balance in the relationship. If nothing changes after that conversation, you may need to reconsider how much energy you invest in that friendship.
Remember, protecting your emotional well-being is not selfish. Strong friendships are built on mutual care, respect, and support.
Sometimes adjusting boundaries can improve a friendship. Other times it may simply reveal that the relationship has run its course. Either way, choosing relationships that bring positivity into your life is always the healthier path.
— Franca